Thursday, October 2, 2014

finally, somebody figured it out

Lately, I have distanced myself from all the traffic of social networking sites. Yes I am guilty of having accounts that I can hardly manage. I do have facebook, twitter, instagram, tumblr, multiply (site closed down), plurk, and more.

I do keep myself online but I try to resist the temptation of posting an emotional/personal opinion. I can afford a few clicks to LIKE a photo or post and care to share some documented events in my life.

So what I am saying in this post is that as I browsed along in these social sites, a friend whom I have never met or talked to and whom I actually forgot how we became friends even (hahaha) posted something that made my tummy giggled. It made me exclaim – “See! Finally, someone figured it out! Finally, I am hearing this side rather than always hearing the usual ‘what are you waiting for?’ and ‘you are reaching past the age for that stage’. Finally!”. I exclaimed it silently in my head. Fist bump!

Here’s the article post with my inside notes:

5 Good Reasons Why You Should Wait Until You’re 30 To Get Married

(Hahaha – a smile sneaked in your face right?)

1. You Barely Know Yourself
True enough. Even in getting into a relationship, I had the chance to get to know myself more before I shared my being to another person. I was able to patch up confusions and pains from my childhood to teenage years and all the struggles of growing up (also known as maturity – I sound old! hahaha). With that, I skipped the (dramatic) part of being confused on what I really want and on how to handle myself in every situation.

2. You’re Most Likely Not Financially Stable
Marriage is not an overnight thought. It's not like jumping into the boat where most of your friends are in and they are calling you to join - definitely not! I don't think I would settle myself in a situation where I would have too many worries. Wouldn't it be nice if you are calm and relaxed as you enter the gates of Married Life? Yes, pressure will always be there but I prefer not to stress out myself when it comes to finances. Well, I am a guru in terms of money matters but marriage in my personal opinion requires stability. 

There are things that I am considering like a house, stable job, and for my family to be ready for my departure from our household. It is my personal goal to help out my family and provide them a convenient life. Before being a wife, being a daughter and sister are FIRST for me. 

3. You May Very Well Feel Like You Haven’t Experienced Enough
I have seen first hand how most of my friends wanted the freedom of being single. They can't go out late at night and attend events because they have kids and a partner that would rant about them partying. I don't want to have hang-ups in my youth. 

Well, I enjoyed my teenage life (wink). I participated and experience what it is to be young - so I guess I will give myself a pat in the back. I know that when I settle down, I will not have regrets for not experiencing things that I should have. 

4. Marriage is Forever; What’s the Rush?
INDEED. Yes, for us women we often see marriage as a ticking time bomb because of our limitations in giving life. But other than that, why rush? 

Marriage is an indelible contract - a vow and a covenant by all means. So it requires a lot of thought and discernment because when you exchanged "I do's" there's no backing out - you will say those two words with that person forever (well, ideally! without considering the legalities of annulment and divorce).

5. Succeeding Does Get Harder with Age

I strongly believe that every person needs to fulfill his/her dreams in the field of career. A person who has achieved contentment in his/her career makes a good husband or wife. Self accomplishments bring confidence to a person and it boosts up your personality - removing insecurities, worries, regrets and other factors that might contribute to an unhappy marriage. 
Of course, practically speaking having a good job will provide for the family.